Self esteem is the way we view and feel about ourselves. This will have a very profound effect on how our life will proceed each day.
The opinions and experiences that we have gathered since child hood from parents, school, friends and society plays a part in developing self-esteem, but how we take it and view those opinions determines our self esteem.
We seek encouragement, approval and appreciation from others. There is a constant barrage of opinions from others that we should be slim, dress fashionable, be financially successful etc. If we are having problems in any of these then it will have an impact on our lives and leads to low self esteem. The opposite is also true. If we have managed to live up to this expectation, it can lead to pride in ourselves but friends and society can view this as being arrogant. This can also have an effect on our self confidence
Our self-esteem will fluctuate daily and is highly affected by the events of the day. But end of the day, we should have total control of our self confidence and self esteem. We should not allow these affect our self esteem and control our life.
Rejection, failure and loss are the factors for low self esteem. Success and achievement can greatly boost our confidence and self-esteem.
How we feel about ourselves is also determined by our relationships with others. Every one wants to be wanted and wants to contribute and be a valued member of the society.
The best way to increase self esteem is to start believing in ourselves. It is not simple but a concerted effort will surely give success. One has to understand the self and look for changing himself for good. Change means stepping outside the comfort zone.
Goal setting is an important process to develop self esteem. Let us start with a small goal, set a time frame and achieve it. This process will gradually build our confidence levels and self esteem. The goal can be anything – a goal to go for walk every day for 30 minutes in the next 30 days. After 30 days, this will become a habit and later it will be difficult to stop the habit. A beginning for a good health. Good health infuses self esteem.
Nothing worth comes easy. If something comes easily, we won’t value its value. We must be determined to improve our self esteem. That will lead to achieve greater things. Remember the way you feel about yourself also determines how others will interact with you and vice versa.
One of the best things to achieve self esteem is to convince ourselves that if we are going to have the life we wanted, we don't have the time to worry about what others think of us.
If we allow others to determine our actions that means others are controlling our life. We should be the only one to control our life and nobody else.
