Wise Parenting

Wise Parenting

It is said that when a child is born, a new mother and father are also born. The message is that with the child, the parents should also grow.

We watch our children grow right before our eyes. It seems like yesterday they were a baby trying to crawl, walk and feed themselves and now they’re in school, making friends and learning to be more and more independent.

When children grow, they develop their own unique personality and temperament. We need to redevelop our parenting skills around the individual needs of our child. No two children are exactly alike and therefore neither should our parenting style. Some children may need more guidance and some may be very intrinsically motivated.

While you encourage their independence, it’s also important that you also encourage their ability to ask for help when needed and continue to praise good deeds, actions and traits.

The most important tools we have in order to successfully adjust our parenting skills are our eyes and ears. We have to see what’s going on with our child and we have to hear what they are telling us. It’s important that we encourage our child to be their own individual while still being available to them at all times. A child may not need us to be as directly involved with their schooling to ensure their overall academic success, but they may need us to be more involved in their social life as they may be feeling a bit shaky or scared when it comes to making new friends or meeting new people.

So the bottom line is: as your child grows and changes, so should your parenting skills. Keep your eyes and ears open and communicate honestly and openly with your child and you’ll both mature gracefully.

Praising a child correctly is important to the development of positive behaviors. It’s a great way to encourage constructive future behavior.

When you praise, you are giving your child a feeling of positive feedback, which increases their sense of confidence and self esteem. When you praise, you are pointing out the way they’ve acted, an action they’ve taken or simply who they are. When your child looks good, tell him so. When your child does anything that pleases you, let him know. You should also praise a child’s effort to do well, even if it doesn’t come out so good in the end. You should find something each day about your child to praise.
Be on the lookout constantly for behaviors or actions deserving of praise, but don’t be over the top about it.

Message for the MonthIf anger, pride or selfishness comes, you are to return them to God. If you don’t, you will not be able to change.

TWELVE COMMANDMENTS

1. Make up your mind to be happy. Learn to find pleasure in simple things.
2.Make best of your circumstances. No one has everything, and everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with gladness of life. The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears.
3. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Don’t think that somehow you should be protected from misfortune that befalls other people.
4. You can’t please everybody. Don’t let criticism worry you.
5. Don’t let your neighbor set your standards. Be yourself.
6.Do the things you enjoy doing but stay out of debt.
7.Never borrow trouble. Imaginary things are harder to bear than real ones.
8. Since hate poisons the soul, do not cherish jealously, Avoid people who make you unhappy.
9. Have many interests. If can’t travel, read about new places
10. Don’t hold postmortems. Don’t spend your time brooding over sorrows or mistakes. Don’t be one who never gets over things.
11.Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself.
12. Keep busy at something. A busy person never has time to be unhappy.

And don’t forget to always be thankful. And Thank God for today

Good breathing

There is a saying that “Life is breath and breath is life”. So long as there is breath in the body there is life.

Our physical health, mental balance and emotional stability are all affected in the manner that we breathe. When we breathe well our respiratory system works its best, by using full capacity of the lungs. There is a remarkable improvement in digestive, circulation and eliminative process. This will improve our state of mind and physically we will feel better. The quality of our breathing also affects the functioning of all the systems of the body and the quality of your life.
Improper breathing is the root cause to a number illness. Good breathing technique has many benefits. It is slow, full, deep and rhythmic.
1. It improves our sleep pattern.
2. It aids in calming the mind, nerves and emotion.
3. It improves all mental processes including concentration and memory.
4. It releases the tension.
5. It supplies more oxygen to the body cells and so blood is purified.
6. It helps to overcome tiredness and to rejuvenate energy.
When we breathe in, oxygen is absorbed by every cell of the body to carry on activities of our life. When we breathe out, we throw out waste products of inhalation, which is carbon dioxide. Inhaling more oxygen means more energy to the cells.
It is suggested to learn good breathing techniques from a master. Even otherwise, practice to inhale more oxygen in a rhythmic way.

Simple Breathing Techniques
The nose has a left and a right side; we use both to inhale and exhale. Actually they are different. The right side represents the sun, left side represents the moon.

During a headache, try to close your right nose and use your left nose to breathe. In about 15 minutes, the head ache will go.

If you feel tired, just reverse, close your left nose and breathe through your right nose. After a while, you will feel you are refreshed.

Tips for the month

Just walking for 30 minutes, 3 or 4 times a week is enough to combat aging.

To reduce the strain on your heart, sleep on your right side, or on your back.

Time and Tide wait for None

No one is so powerful to stop the march of time – this is what the phrase ‘time and tide wait for none’ means. It signifies the importance of time. Time is a precious commodity. It’s as important as life itself. How do we define time? We often refer to the term ‘lifetime’. What makes a life is not the whole life at one go. Rather it consists of moments stitched together. We should live life in parts, so to say. Live a whole lifetime in a whole day. Live as if there’s no tomorrow. This doesn’t mean being rash. But start enjoying your life. Opportunity is here, similarly, time is here and now. Time should never be wasted.

We have to move ahead with the time to conquer it. Generally what we do is that we move where life takes us. Thus, we allow to be driven by time, and to dominate us. If we stand still we will reach nowhere and time won’t stop for us, to take us along.

Men may come and men may go but time stays on just like ‘the brook’. But, again just as water is never the same in a flowing river, time too never repeats itself. Time once past cannot be recalled. Time doesn’t give you chances. There are no retakes in real life. Time teaches you with experience but it has been the cruelest teacher. Why? Because it never waits and you can’t change your actions later. No matter how many pains you take, you cannot use the ‘undo’ command in life and edit again.

Another quality of time is its uniformity and impartial nature. It works at the same pace for the wealthiest and for the poorest. An hour means sixty minutes both for a king and a pauper. All are slaves of time. What we can do is make the most of the time at hand, as the old proverb goes ‘make hay while the sun shines’ – Kaatrulla pothe thuutrikkoL.

We can broadly divide time in to three categories – past, present and future. But actually time is indivisible. It’s a wonder how soon a past is created. You wink the eye and the moment is past. You will never find back the time wasted by you, there will only be tales of past. Future too is not revealed to us. We never know what is going to happen. ‘There’s many a slip between the cup and the lip’. So we should live in the present. It is only in the present that the essence of life is contained. We cannot depend on either the past or future which is not in front of us. Live life as it unfolds itself before us, that is, in the form of present.

There is a time and place for everything. So when opportunity knocks at your door don’t turn around. Grab the offer with both hands. Act spontaneously. The moment you act will be the right time. You never know when the time runs out or the tide turns unfavorable. Time is like the sand fast pouring out of your hands. It is just like the onion being layer after layer and in the end you find there’s nothing remaining. It’s now or never.

The great saying "Time and Tide Wait for None" is extremely correct. If we have to complete some task we should complete it as soon as possible because we never know what can happen in the next minute. So do it right now and never say that let the right time come. We never know "JO AAJ HAI KAL HO NA HO” means Indru iruppathu naLai irukkalaam; illaamalum pokalaam.