Wise Parenting

Wise Parenting

It is said that when a child is born, a new mother and father are also born. The message is that with the child, the parents should also grow.

We watch our children grow right before our eyes. It seems like yesterday they were a baby trying to crawl, walk and feed themselves and now they’re in school, making friends and learning to be more and more independent.

When children grow, they develop their own unique personality and temperament. We need to redevelop our parenting skills around the individual needs of our child. No two children are exactly alike and therefore neither should our parenting style. Some children may need more guidance and some may be very intrinsically motivated.

While you encourage their independence, it’s also important that you also encourage their ability to ask for help when needed and continue to praise good deeds, actions and traits.

The most important tools we have in order to successfully adjust our parenting skills are our eyes and ears. We have to see what’s going on with our child and we have to hear what they are telling us. It’s important that we encourage our child to be their own individual while still being available to them at all times. A child may not need us to be as directly involved with their schooling to ensure their overall academic success, but they may need us to be more involved in their social life as they may be feeling a bit shaky or scared when it comes to making new friends or meeting new people.

So the bottom line is: as your child grows and changes, so should your parenting skills. Keep your eyes and ears open and communicate honestly and openly with your child and you’ll both mature gracefully.

Praising a child correctly is important to the development of positive behaviors. It’s a great way to encourage constructive future behavior.

When you praise, you are giving your child a feeling of positive feedback, which increases their sense of confidence and self esteem. When you praise, you are pointing out the way they’ve acted, an action they’ve taken or simply who they are. When your child looks good, tell him so. When your child does anything that pleases you, let him know. You should also praise a child’s effort to do well, even if it doesn’t come out so good in the end. You should find something each day about your child to praise.
Be on the lookout constantly for behaviors or actions deserving of praise, but don’t be over the top about it.

Message for the MonthIf anger, pride or selfishness comes, you are to return them to God. If you don’t, you will not be able to change.